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Sex or love, it's the same issue. The bottom line is either he'll be faithful to you or he won't -- whether we're talking about physical or emotional fidelity, it's the same thing.
I'm not saying that it's wrong to feel a little jealousy. What I am saying is that it's up to you to rise above that, and that you're just going to have to figure out how to do so if you want things to work between you. You probably can't stop him from seeing this woman all the time -- from the sounds of it he doesn't have that much choice in the matter himself. But even if you could, it would be pretty much the definition of bitchy girlfriend if you forced him to abandon a close friendship because of your insecurities.
And really, let's be honest here. The problem isn't that he's friends with a woman per se, but rather that he's friends with a woman while living thousands of miles away. This isn't a jealousy thing, but rather a distance thing. It's one of the many obstacles that you'll have to surmount to make things work between you.
Like everything else when it comes to relationships, there's no manual for this. There's no step-by-step guide. You just have to find a way to set those feelings aside if you want your relationship to be successful. Nobody can tell you how to do that; you'll have to figure it out for yourself.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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