UPDATE
(Sorry for the all caps and red text)
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1) Are you sure she's pregnant or do you just have her word? Doctor confirmed?
2) Are you sure it's yours? I know you think its unlikely, but that didn't seem to be the case not that long ago.
3) What is she trying to get you to do? If it's anything beyond financial support at this stage, be suspicious.
4) Has she told anyone else she's pregnant? How is the announcement being made?
5) Are you trolling us?
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1. The pregnancy is doctor confirmed
2. Not sure, but she will get a paternity test. When I brought it up, she seemed completely unfazed. I'm pretty sure it's mine (but there will still be a test).
3. We're thinking of moving in together, looked at a few apartments today (I still have serious doubts about this whole thing)
4. We've only told our close friends and parents, we're certainly not making is super public.
5. Negative.
-There is a .000001% she will get an abortion
-There is a 10% chance she will put the baby up for adoption. This is what I'm hoping for.
My Objective Going Forward:
I want to convince her that adoption is best for her, the baby, and me. Are there any statistics regarding unmarried couples and unexpected pregnancies? If there are hard facts I can show her, maybe I can convince her that this is going to be really messy.
We did some math last night, and we simply can't afford this (it was depressing). The problem is that we're both getting kicked out by our parents and we have to find a place together. I'm thinking that we will move in together, and during our time spent together I can convince her just how fucked we are and maybe she'll consider adoption.
There's more on my mind that I need to post, but I have to go. Thanks again for all of the posts and information everyone!