Wes Mantooth

Sorry to hear it, I've never been there but I've seen a few friends go through this and its never easy. I will say (based on what I've seen from those I know) that if you're a level headed intelligent person you'll find a way to navigate the waters and come out okay on the other side. It sucks and it wont be easy but but where there's a will (even if its forced on you) there's a way. Best of luck.

Okay the following has nothing to do with Soma or his GF I don't know them or what kind of parents they will make but MY GOD do I hate hearing things like this. You have a mother who has basically decided the fathers financial lot in life for the 20 years for a simple mistake while bringing a child into the world that neither one is sure they either want or can take care of. The child, unplanned for gets the short end of the stick because the parents have no intention of trying to build a family, don't have the financial ability to provide or worse resent the he/she fucked up their own lives and feels the brunt of all this through out childhood. Before long Dad gets sick of the responsibility and splits, mom can't afford to pay and suddenly junior becomes everyone else's responsibility/problem. Now I know all of that is a generalization and an unplanned for child can have a great life with great parents. But it does happen (a lot from what I've seen in my own life) and I wish more people would think about it before going through with an unplanned pregnancy, its not fair to anybody involved if neither of you are ready.

Back on topic Soma I'd do what I can to try and avoid going through with all of this if you or your GF don't feel ready, at the very least have a very, VERY long talk about your options. If you can't avoid it then you'll have to take it on the chin for the sake of the little one (who has no say in this) and do the best job you can to provide for and raise him/her.

Again best of luck and the above rant wasn't directed personally at you.

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