Toronto has about 4 or 5 swinger's clubs. (On premise Swinger's clubs are legal in Toronto.)
I've been to two with my GF, and we go maybe once every 6 weeks or so. There is Club Wicked and Club M4 that I've been to. Both are on-premise swing clubs, which essentially means that you have sex in the club. Both are set up the same in that there's a bar area and a back room (where the sex occurs). The action doesn't really start to midnight at both places I've been to.
I tend to go to M4 more than Wicked because I'm in my mid 40's and Wicked is a bit of a younger crowd (late 20's, 30's, and 40's) whereas M4 is more of a middle age crowd. M4 I also find more sexual and more inclusive.
I've always had a good time, and I enjoy going.
This is something that I've engaged in for about 1.5 years now with my current GF (only). It's not something I did before I met her, but I had had several 3 somes and went to one gang bang once.
I must admit that I would have a very hard time giving it up - at least at the current time because I do find it quite interesting and thrilling.
Some insight.....
1. There are change rooms in the back rooms where everyone gets undressed. It was totally sureal the first time getting undressed in front of a group of men and women.
2. Clothes may not be worn in the back room.
3. You can do as much or as little as you like in the backroom.
4. Both places are set up similiar in that there are several areas (I call them corals) where people have sex.
5. It is thrilling to watch other people have sex.
6. There can be some very unattractive people there.
7. There can be some very attractive people there.
8. Some people can get a little pushy, but it is rare.
9. I'm surprised at how many men have small penises.
10. Sometimes your parther clicks with someone but you don't click with that person's partner. My GF very much likes having sex with this one guy (call him D), however, I don't click with his wife at all (call her L). I find her distant, controlling and a dead lay frankly. But I take one for the team for my GF because she enjoys fucking D. Conversely, I met this female professor from the University of Toronto (seriously) who I LOVE having sex with, however, her partner has a very small and limp penis. (Though apparently he's quite gifted orally according to my GF.) So my GF takes one for the team in that instance. She is more particular than a lot of women though, and sometimes she can tell that I am interested in a woman but she will put the brakes on because she is REALLY not interested in the male. I have to respect her decision.
11. There have been occasions where I have only had sex with my GF. There have been occasions where I have had sex with 2 other women besides her and she's had sex with 2 other men.
12. I enjoy seeing her with other men, and I encourage her to do so, but once I cum, my desires tend to shut down, or at least decrease drastically. Sad but true. So I usually try to hold off as long as I can.
13 There is Female Female interaction on any night, but male male interaction is confined to wednesdays and Sundsays (at M4 at least).
14. I have only ever been on Saturday nights which is for couples only.
15. I would go every 2 to 3 weeks, but my GF puts the brakes on - prefering it to be a special thing. She's probably right.
16. We've only met 2 couples in the front room that we ended up hooking up with in the backroom. For us, most of the meeting and hooking up goes on in the back room whilst we are havining sex together. A couple comes in, lays down beside you on the matresses and first thing you know, you feel a hand sliding up your thigh.
17. Only 2 of my friends know that I go to Swingers clubs. (One male friend, one female friend) Interesting, both would like to try it out, but both are married. The male friend wants to go with a female hook up rather than his wife because he's the kind of guy who likes his wife to keep a dime between her knees at all times. My female friend wants to go, but she feels that her hubby would not be interested - even be put off by it, so she willl not raise the issue with him.
Last edited by james t kirk; 07-11-2010 at 06:38 PM..
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