Originally Posted by Baraka_Guru

I disagree. Unless, of course, *I* shouldn't be in a relationship.

What's important is to somehow see to it that your needs are being met. In many (if not most) instances, meeting your needs in a relationship will simultaneously meet the needs of your partner. I've experienced it several times where simply taking initiative and getting what you want out of the relationship will strengthen it overall. You often want the same things.

Some of us aren't built or trained to talk about our feelings and needs, but that's okay; it's not necessary to. Actions speak louder than words, and words are often just talk---sometimes just repeating what you heard on a tv show or movie, or perhaps something you've read in a book on relationships.