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Originally Posted by rome
It seems very notable that one biological fact has been ignored here. Men are basically "hardwired" to be aroused visually. Is it realistic to tell a man that IF he loves his woman, that the size and shape of the body to which he is going to project his passion presenting a diminishing stimulus is something that he can "get over"?
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I think that might hold some water in the early stages of a relationship but its ridiculous to think that men can't become attracted to a women for reasons other then her physical appearance. Having a girl with a spectacular body is great and becomes the icing on the cake when you find out there is something substantial beneath...when there isn't it gets old really quickly. The sex becomes routine and boring and you're left with what? Arm candy who doesn't even get you off anymore and thinks a deep conversation revolves around discussing the drama on this weeks American Idol? If men where that susceptible to biological urges nothing but looks would matter and no relationship would survive once the sex gets old, age sets in or somebody more attractive comes along. We men can and do get past our biological urges all the time, it certainly isn't an unheard of or unrealistic concept to continue placing a high value on a relationship once looks start to diminish.
Regardless what other option does a guy have in a situation like this? You can't force somebody to lose weight or change their appearance because you want them too. So what are you left with? You come to the conclusion that she means so much more to you to you then a great pair of tits and accept her "flaws" and all or you break it off and find somebody who does have a great pair of tits. I would bet most people would choose the former rather than the latter more often then not if they are really in love.