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Wes Mantooth · 06-23-2010, 11:21 AM

It doesn't seem like it should be too difficult, I would think somebodies nationality or how they got to where they are now would come up in anyway during the "get to know ya" phase of your relationship. But since it didn't I'd just find a tactful way to get the info out of her.

You know she's from South America so why not ask what brought her here? Remark on how think its interesting that she immigrated to the US, follow up with questions about her native country, why her parents (or whoever) decided to move then follow up by asking what it was like to come here...

..."Its interesting. as someone who's lived here his whole life I have no idea what the immigration process is really like. Did you find it difficult to get here?" ...

Gauge her responses throughout (might be better to do it on the phone), does she seem irritated by talking about her past, does she jump on any opportunity to talk about it? Of course this all depends on weather or not somebody living here illegally since they were 13 would actually tell you the truth having only known you for 2 months...but never the less if you do it properly I wouldn't think it would be too hard.

06-23-2010, 11:21 AM	#10 (permalink)
Wes Mantooth Junkie Location: Tennessee	It doesn't seem like it should be too difficult, I would think somebodies nationality or how they got to where they are now would come up in anyway during the "get to know ya" phase of your relationship. But since it didn't I'd just find a tactful way to get the info out of her. You know she's from South America so why not ask what brought her here? Remark on how think its interesting that she immigrated to the US, follow up with questions about her native country, why her parents (or whoever) decided to move then follow up by asking what it was like to come here... ..."Its interesting. as someone who's lived here his whole life I have no idea what the immigration process is really like. Did you find it difficult to get here?" ... Gauge her responses throughout (might be better to do it on the phone), does she seem irritated by talking about her past, does she jump on any opportunity to talk about it? Of course this all depends on weather or not somebody living here illegally since they were 13 would actually tell you the truth having only known you for 2 months...but never the less if you do it properly I wouldn't think it would be too hard. __________________ “My god I must have missed it...its hell down here!”