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So me and my wife are going on 2 years married. We are not ready to have kids yet, but do want to in the future. When we first got together she got on the pill and has been on it up until a few months ago. It really affected her emotionally and she was not the same person with it, also it made her develop a skin condition that we are still treating. So hormonal birth control (pill, shot, patch, nuva ring, etc.) are not options for us.

With substantial amounts of lube, a condom irritates her so much to the point we can't even finish (also due to me lasting longer with one) so she is against that as sex becomes painful and not pleasurable for her with me wearing one.

IUD and Marena isn't an option due to the possibility of it attaching to or damaging her uterus and making it where we can't have kids one day which we definitely do want, just not now.

I suggested me getting a vasectomy and getting it reversed when we wanted kids, but that has too great of a risk of it not being able to be reversed and us not being able to have kids later as well.

So what options does that leave us? So far we have been doing the pull and pray method, which she says is better than condoms because she's not irritated but it's not guaranteed and she feels unsatisfied because I get going a lot into it and have to pull out, so emotionally she doesn't feel complete even if she did climax before I had to pull out. So far it's the best option we can think of, but I wish there was something else that was more stable of a method and didn't have to have me pull out. Any suggestions?

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