I guess I owe you guys an update, since you helped steer me away from making some bad decisions. I finally talked to her this morning, I asked her to define our relationship, are we two people living together as if we're married with a kid or are we just two people living together trying to raise a kid. She couldn't quickly answer that one so I answered it for her. I told her I thought we were two people living together raising a kid and that as a couple we're uncommunicative, cold and probably should see other people, as she already is. She started to deny that she had been involved with someone else but I stopped her. I asked her not to lie to me and told her I had seen the messages (and picture messages) on her phone. She didn't deny it at that point but said she never had sex with anyone else. I told her that I'd like believe that, but it didn't matter, she still had a relationship with someone else but I can understand why. I told her I was trying not to be mad but I still felt betrayed. I told her it wasn't fair to either of us to keep pretending and she told me she thought I start seeing other people. We basically agreed that not much had changed in terms of our relationship, we just finally got around to defining it. I also told her that I hoped whatever she did or was planning to do I hope that she used protection because I don't think I could forgive her if she gave me something I have to live with for the rest of my life. I was disappointed by her lack of emotion in this, but all and all it seems I couldn't have asked for a better outcome.
So that's that. I'll see how this plays out in the months to come, but I surely plan on finding some women that are interested in me. It's been so many years since I've dated that I'm not even sure I know how anymore. I guess I'll have to go to the Hall of Fame and reread Plan9's guide on how to pick up women
I can't say I'm feeling great about all this right now, I wish I could, but it is time to move on. Thanks for pointing me in the right direction.