Thread: Friendship woes
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Old 06-02-2010, 05:53 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by telekinetic View Post
Take some responsibility. You were the one who altered the terms of the relationship ("I felt that it would be best if we end any of our flirtatious discussion between each other and maintain a more platonic relationship"), and he responded by deciding that a relationship without the flirtation wasn't one he wanted to be in.

Reading between the lines here, I'm sure you probably phrased it a bit differently in your email, and his photoshop of a chat conversation satirizing what you were implying about your averages chat content doesn't seem like an out-of-line response.

His accusations of you being romantically attached make sense in that context, as well.

He may have been less serious about your chats than you, and for you to take them seriously, by seriously addressing the content (even if you were suggesting it end) might have been a bit of a shock--enough for him to want to disconnect.

Besides all of that...not to put too fine of a point on it, but if you're not dating, who fucking cares? He doesn't want to be chat buddies with you anymore. Move on. If you were so wrapped up in it that this is hard, then his accusations of you having more feelings than just casual chat friends should is probably accurate.
What responsibility? Are you stating that I deserved to receive a faked chat screenshot that depicted me as a cocksucking whore who was begging for his love child? Seriously, that was undeserved. He apologized for going too far in making his "joke." He seemed quite sincere in his apology. He thought that I had logged off when my firefox crashed. I returned and found I was blocked, he denied doing so and wished me a good night. He has not spoken to me since.

I understand where you are coming from, seriously I do. However the issue of the email request in regards to the flirting had been solved. After digging to the bottom of it, he thought I was accusing him in some way of cheating on her with me. I explained that wasn't what was meant at all, he stated that he understood and we moved on. We resumed chatting as we had previously. The scenario that he had written in his original response however was something that no sane person would have concluded with all information available.

Listen, I don't know how you are with your friends, but I see a loss of a friendship as a big deal. It need not be a romantic relationship for there to be a sense of loss. Sure, it is a break-up of some sort. Not a romantic break-up but a platonic one counts as well. I am sure that many of us here have found that our relationships with friends can be just as (if not more) open and sharing as with our lovers. Obviously, I fucking care or I wouldn't have written a novel over the ordeal asking for insight.
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