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These responses have all been things I've needed to hear, though I haven't wanted to. She out town with her parents for a few days at a wedding so I have a couple more days to plan my approach to this (and lose a little more sleep over it). I had a vivid dream just before I woke up about fighting about this. I approached her to talk about things in my dream and the first thing I said was 'I know you've been cheating on me' which of course led to the hostility I was trying to avoid. I woke up with my heart racing a couple of hours before I intended to get up.
I just need to talk to her in private and acknowledge that we both know our relationship has been over for a while. It's like we've been floating in limbo. I think we've been good parents but really shitty partners. I don't mind still living together for the time being but we can stop pretending that we're married. This isn't how relationships are supposed to work. We have a lot of things we need to talk about and I'm not trying to take our son away from her. Ideally we should split our time with him pretty evenly and still do lots of things together.
If I can keep my ego and anger in check I think I can work this out in a way that's best for everyone. Hopefully we can be better friends than we were as a couple.
BTW, he's four.
Mods, I think this thread may have moved more into the Tilted Life category.
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