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Plan9 · 05-26-2010, 09:14 AM

Yeah, back to the OP.

I think it's hard to gauge the effects on porn on young people partly because of what ebb and flow we have in non-sexual social arenas (simple equity between the sexes on a range of issues that essentially erode "traditional" gender roles) and how mainstream the sexual arena has become today (thar's tits on TeeVee, Jethro!). On the continuum, I'd say we're, everyday Western society, somewhere between Roman orgies and Victorian denial... getting closer to Rome every day it seems. I'm not complaining... I'm hoping to find an athletic sex partner again. Wait, where was I going?

And you're right, porn is a problem when it's the sole source of sexual input in someone's life. Without tempering gonzo fantasy with the realities of a sexual relationship, it's easy for people (obese middle-aged white guys) to have really distorted views of sex and women. While the age of the "consumer" plays into the this-is-sex-because-this-is-what-I've-seen bit, I'd imagine a large part of it is also this-is-sex-because-this-is-all-I've-done bit. Age is an important factor, but not the sole factor in how porn "damages" people who haven't had a in-the-flesh sexual experience. There is an argument out there that today's just-like-crack Web-based porn is actually more damaging to middle-aged individuals who have isolated social networks and are basically stuck in their ways. Young people have a chance to evolve by going through society's meatgrinders (high school, college, military, and the attached social circles); these guys, generally speaking, don't, as they are creatures of habit and said habit includes their little life bubble.

05-26-2010, 09:14 AM	#31 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Yeah, back to the OP. I think it's hard to gauge the effects on porn on young people partly because of what ebb and flow we have in non-sexual social arenas (simple equity between the sexes on a range of issues that essentially erode "traditional" gender roles) and how mainstream the sexual arena has become today (thar's tits on TeeVee, Jethro!). On the continuum, I'd say we're, everyday Western society, somewhere between Roman orgies and Victorian denial... getting closer to Rome every day it seems. I'm not complaining... I'm hoping to find an athletic sex partner again. Wait, where was I going? And you're right, porn is a problem when it's the sole source of sexual input in someone's life. Without tempering gonzo fantasy with the realities of a sexual relationship, it's easy for people (obese middle-aged white guys) to have really distorted views of sex and women. While the age of the "consumer" plays into the this-is-sex-because-this-is-what-I've-seen bit, I'd imagine a large part of it is also this-is-sex-because-this-is-all-I've-done bit. Age is an important factor, but not the sole factor in how porn "damages" people who haven't had a in-the-flesh sexual experience. There is an argument out there that today's just-like-crack Web-based porn is actually more damaging to middle-aged individuals who have isolated social networks and are basically stuck in their ways. Young people have a chance to evolve by going through society's meatgrinders (high school, college, military, and the attached social circles); these guys, generally speaking, don't, as they are creatures of habit and said habit includes their little life bubble. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake." Last edited by Plan9; 05-26-2010 at 09:27 AM..