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I am on the thin border between INTP and INTJ, leaning slightly towards the former. My last relationship was with an ISFJ. Our type relationship is characterized as supplementary, adding to one another's strengths while experiencing minimal conflicts. Bullshit. We held one another back and experienced numerous conflicts throughout our tumultuous relationship. I cared for her deeply, but the growing chasm between us, in physical proximity and life goals, widened to an impossible distance. Even so, we speak on occasion, and I would consider her to be a wonderful person.
I had a similarly tumultuous affair with a woman I would classify as an ESTP. Our mutual attraction exploded, and then we separately imploded. Our type relationship is the 'counterpart', which can be metaphorically described as speaking two different languages, and somehow, perfectly understanding one another. I adored her intellect, respected her selfishness, and couldn't get enough of the raw sensuality between us. Unfortunately, she was manipulative and sadistic. Perversely, I was intrigued until the consequences caught up with me.
A third woman, matching my personality type of INTP, was briefly a romantic interest. We flirted off and on, but due to a variety of reasons, that tapered into a sturdy friendship. We have countless similarities in behavior, but she can also seem quite alien in her reasoning, at times. I would attribute that to a cultural difference, as she was raised within a traditional Chinese family.
What is the conclusion? Personality types are untrustworthy when attempting to determine the nature of a relationship. They are thoroughly unscientific and should not be relied upon for accurate evaluations of personality, which is a concept far too complex for tidy classification into a mere 16 variations on humanity.
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