Kurant

This is kind of a complicated situation, but I met this woman about 3 years ago. My wife and I had already separated and had started talking divorce, about a 14 months later we had filed, and I'm still dealing with it to this day - final in June if she can manage to keep her head on straight.

The woman I met had a guy she was living with, she asked me more then once if I wanted to move in with her, if I wanted to be with her, and of course I did, I just couldn't - I wasn't ready to commit myself to anyone or anything - and I definitely did not want to drag her into my divorce which has been a living hell since it started. I wasn't going to walk away from my home, still pay for it and not live in it - plus my son lives there with me. I don't want her living in the house, which my wife has keys too, and still frequents because of our child - I don't want the drama.

Anyway, this woman stayed where she was, we spent a lot of time together, I do love her, and she's simply amazing. It's a once in a lifetime thing, I'm sure of that. It's been talked about between us many times.

But she told me 2 weeks ago shes leaving. The guy she lives with is moving to Oregon and asked me in July when my divorce was final, if I was willing to move there. Of course I'm willing to move there to be with her - but she's leaving with him. I have a problem with that.

Needless to say, I'm really not sure what to do. All I have to do is say yes, I'm ready to commit to something, and go there and I can have the woman that has been a gigantic part of my life through this. I want to share my life with this woman. The biggest problem, is my son - he's here. I wouldn't be.

I don't know what to do. I love her, I want to spend my life with her, but I can't commit to make a choice, and she's leaving with a guy she tells me she doesn't even like - he records her, snoops through her cell phone bill, all kinds of weird shit. But she's still going.