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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
My main problem with the idea that single motherhood is somehow 'ruining' our men is that it doesn't take into account all of the wonderful young (and not so young) men that were raised by single mothers and somehow ignores all the assholes that happened to be raised in two-parent homes. It's not fair to make them a scapegoat. I mean, if you want to be 'men,' then stand up and take responsibility for your own behavior.
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I have never thought men were "ruined" being raised by single moms, just raised in a completely different way. Tyler Durden's view on this is like all the viewpoints in the book, at the extreme side of the argument, but does apply. He uses Fight Club to tap into the "male side" that has been surpressed, just as finding a male role model will help boys/men tap into a side they feel is a untouched side of their personality.
Argue about gender all you want, women raise children different from men. I'm sure a shitstorm of links will be thrown at me for that statement "proving" that as incorrect by years of studies done at high-ranking universities. It's my opinion and I'm sticking to it. That said, we were raised differently, for better or worse, by single mothers.
As posted by my previous response, I still to this day have a need for a "male influence" and it is one of those things that will stick with me to this day. I don't say I had it "worse" for being a kid raised by a single mom, but I think I did miss out on a lot of things that I would consider "Dad activities" (especially in the deep south). I wish I could have done those things and now I have to learn how to do things that I put in the "Dad teaches kid at a lake side" category, Norman Rockwell style shit.