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I don't think Manic is saying that you need to go all doctor Phil and talk it out.
I took it to mean that if it ever comes a time in a relationship where you have this overwhelming need to snoop because you suspect something, the relationship is already done. No talking, no asking will help it. And that is because even if the significant other isn't cheating RIGHT NOW, the level of suspicion has gotten to the point where you'll always end up feeling like you are walking on egg shells, like the cheating is imminent if not present.
I don't know if that is what he meant, and I won't speak for him. But to me, I have never seen or heard of a relationship working out after it got to the point where one felt like snooping on the other. I've never heard about any relationship where one partner went "I really suspected infidelity, but dug around and found nothing, so now we're great again." When it gets to that point, the relationship is in all likelihood done. Snooping and finding out might get you closure, but not finding out will not be the end of it. It's not about the rightness or wrongness of snooping around, but about the utility of it.
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