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Well, if you're already initiating outside of bedtime, and getting pushed away, sounds like you need to talk to your partner. Do you think this is just a phase, or are you sure it's going to keep happening despite your subtle hints?
It sucks to have to tell your partner that they are doing something that disappoints you, so make sure this is important enough to warrant a talk. It will likely hurt your partners feelings some, and probably make him/her feel inadequate for a while, but sometimes people fall into habits like this and they need a wake up call to realize that they are doing it and snap out of it.
If your partner cares about you and your relationship as much as you, they will definitely make an effort to change things up and ultimately talking this through should be all for the best.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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