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Originally Posted by Manic_Skafe
What's that even supposed to mean and why does it read as judgmental and prickish - both of which are unlike you.
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Perhaps because you read it wrong. I do have an off switch for my sarcasm, bro. I find the content of this thread very interesting because I've experienced similar situations in my life and I wonder if others have as well and how they dealt with them. The philosophy involved is intriguing. How do I justify my complacency? How do I justify my "morality" despite being stonewalled by a partner? So...
Frankie Says Relax, Skafe.
And hey, I can be just as judgmental and prickish as any other forum post champ in here. Are you pissed because you have competition or something?
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Originally Posted by Manic Skafe
The evidence was never in question but rather the morality of the methods employed in finding it. If you find it so hard to agree with the obviously reasonable notion that one should respect their partner's privacy so as to not rummage through their things and turn a microscope to their underwear then you really should just agree to disagree. The fact that she was actually carrying on an affair is no more a validation of his actions than her cheating is anything more than one of the many issues from which this relationship is suffering. What's your point?
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Well-well, I shall agree to disagree then. We see this situation differently. In legal terms, you seem to see it as "fruit of the poisonous tree," whereas I see it as "plain sight" and "inevitable discovery." My point is not that he shouldn't have searched, but that when he did search (and I recognize it was "wrong") based on
That Wonky Feelin', he uncovered something that added to those wonky facts. It went from reasonable suspicion to probable cause. Sure, she confessed, but even before that there was a little more than "one out of two" chance that she was cheating, dude.
I can't believe I'm going to say it but:
People cheat all the time. Why think your relationship is any different? Because you "know" your partner? Hah! Hell, I've been cheated on twice. Sadly, I wouldn't know anything about partner privacy. I've never had any, myself. My last few partners fixed me of that little hurdle. They used to dig and dig in "my stuff" and yet they were the ones that decided to bounce on another crotch. Oh, the irony.
As is with all things in life, there is a difference between the mission statement hanging on the wall and the reality of the job.
Relationships are no different.