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Originally Posted by Martian
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Sex is never zero sum. Or at least it shouldn't be. It's all about the individual boundaries, and how the two (or more) people can interact and have a mutually satisfying relationship within those boundaries.
Looked at another way: if your girlfriend/wife is begging you to tie her up and you consider trying it, does that mean she should get to tie you up too? What about spanking then? What about anal penetration?
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I agree with you in principle, but in reality there's a big difference between two married folks doing things to one another and an outsider coming in and doing something to one of them. If the two married folks involved don't see any difference there, well bully for them I suppose but my own opinion, which is the only frame of reference I can speak from, says that sex is between two folks with some form of emotional attachment, doubly true if they're married.
When you bring someone into the bedroom you immediately remove that emotional attachment from sex. It become just sex. It cheapens it, turns it into just physical thrusting and that's just not something I'd want to see it turned into for myself or my wife.
Like I said, just my opinion.