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Originally Posted by Plan9
Spartan? Hah... hardly. I prefer two-ply.
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"Spartan" was a reference to our Lord
Rollins.
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Originally Posted by Plan9
So where is the win? Gently interrogating his partner and hoping for truth?
Don't be naive, dude. I'm sure you've told plenty of lies in your time, too.
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Firstly, we're talking about dealing with women here - there is no winning.
Secondly, I've already said in this thread that I can empathize with the OP and can even imagine myself snooping exactly as he did. However, regardless of whether his suspicions are confirmed or not, two wrongs don't make a right. Pedantic or not, it's still true.
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My point: If he isn't comfortable enough with his wife to talk to her face-to-face, doubt moved in a long time ago.
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Also: Somebody show me the "trust vs. doubt" continuum. Enlighten me.
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Where has it been argued that a good and healthy relationship is entirely devoid of doubt? I've lied and have been lied to in my dealings with the fairer sex and if there's anything it's taught me. it's that relationships are far too dynamic and complex to be nailed down by concepts as inaccurate and inflexible as trust and doubt.
To be clear, I have no real problem with the fact that he's snooped and I even disagree with those that believe their relationship to be so far-gone that whether or not she's cheated is irrelevant since it'd only be another nail in the coffin. The truth of the matter counts and he has every right to know whether or not he's been betrayed.
However, none of that excuses his own wrongdoings.