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Originally Posted by Charlatan
You are approaching this with the mind that she is guilty. I am not.
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I just figure it's better to approach a dark room ready to defend yourself than just waltzing on in and getting clocked from behind. Infidelity is way likely.
I've been clocked from behind by a few partners. I've been clocked straight in the face. Neither feels good. So now I'm all about the Martin-Baker routine.
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Originally Posted by Charlatan
The issue isn't whether or not she cheated. The real issue is whether or not he can trust her at all. If he can't trust her, he needs to decide for himself if this is a relationship he wants to be in.
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Utter bullhonky, dude. The issue here is totally about if she cheated or not. Trust is related to actions; it's not some amorphous concept off by itself. Trust is like a NASA o-ring testing log... they either get tested every day or you've missed one. If you missed one, it's a big deal. I don't get how you're separating the two. Please explain. I figure if she didn't cheat, he can trust her. If she did cheat, he can't trust her. This isn't
Minority Report; we can't see the future. We have to go on what has been done and what has not been done. My next significant other might be a gigundo cheating 'ho-bag at heart, but I'll trust her 100% until she does something and I find out about it. That's the only way to get any sleep at night. I assume fidelity until proven otherwise but I have a "business continuity plan" in place for if/when said event occurs so I don't end up crippled by some surprise blow.