lagoonguy

How old are you guys? I think age plays a factor here. I myself am 37, and all of my single 30 something friends kind of have an idea that the occasional drunken (or what it sounds like with Karen, some other 'enhancement') hookup happens. For example, my friend Kaye and I are very close friends, and i've met a lot of girls through her (in this example, Susan). Well, after a night of drinking with Susan and some others, i ended up at Susan's place... First we were just chilling, then started making out, and i was the one that said 'we can't have sex' --- and Susan actually said 'don't be a boy'.... then she said 'you know, we can NEVER let Kaye know we've fooled around' - and I said 'well, i don't want sex to fuck anything up' and again she said 'stop being afraid' ---- so we had sex. And it was fine. the next day we had a few texts back and forth, but that was it. It was kind of an understanding that it was a casual thing... especially since she, Kaye, and our circle are all close. But I think we've got the maturity (if that's the right word) of being mid to late 30s, and can understand that casual sex can be just that, as long as it's understood to begin with.

Now, if you guys are early 20s, I think a girl throwing sex around is more of an attempt to get you, or get approval from you, or something like that. Of course I'm not saying i'm the wise man because i'm in my 30s, but I certainly recognize there is a difference between how it is now, and how it was for me 15 years ago.