Yeah, I always shake my head whenever "chivalry" is brought up, and along comes "opening doors" in the same breath. WTF?
When I think of chivalry, I think of more serious issues:
Day to day, will I:
- Avoid insulting someone for any reason?
- Use my manners where the social setting requires them?
- Defend someone if they are being treated unjustly?
- Treat strangers and friends alike with respect and dignity?
- Go out of my way to help someone in need?
- Avoid causing discourtesy to someone, even if it requires giving up on something of my own desire?
- Not lie to cover my own ass, especially if it will harm others?
- Speak politely?
- Think about others, and not just myself?
- etc.....
Opening doors and picking up the dinner check is such a small piece of the puzzle.