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Old 02-22-2010, 12:32 PM   #4 (permalink)
Borla
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In the past, things were far too male-dominated. There is no doubt about that, and the unfairness and unjustness many women have suffered from it. I think some would argue that it's gone to extremes the other way now, at least in some cases. If you want equality in all things, that is fine. But when each sex completely morphs away from traditional gender roles, it's not fair to pick and choose things that benefit yourself while not allowing reciprocation.

For instance, is it fair for the woman to expect the man to do all the so-called "manly" things like shovel snow, open doors, take out the garbage, etc., while she doesn't choose to do the things on the other end of the spectrum like cooking, laundry, etc.?

I'm not arguing one way or the other, just throwing out some thoughts for consideration. IMO, individuals have to figure out what works for them personally, and for their partners if they are in a relationship. If I'm ok with the role I'm playing as a man (mow the grass, main breadwinner, be the handyman) and my wife is ok with her role as a woman (most of the cleaning, grocery shopping, cooking), why should it matter to anyone else? If it is far different in someone else's relationship, but they are both fine with it, who am I to question their values/roles?

For me personally, my role includes opening doors, doing almost all the driving, paying for dinner, and other things that I guess could call somewhere in the 'chivalry' catagory. But I see how some guys get fed up with it.
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