Wes Mantooth

I thought I'd post this because I needed a little perspective on a recent situation...and you fine folks seem right chock full of good advice so maybe you can help me out a bit.

I started seeing this girl about a month and half ago. It started simply enough as a meeting through mutual friends and...well you guys know how relationships develop. Anyway about 2 weeks ago she started spending more time at my place, which was great. Shes incredibly smart, we share a common sense of humor and if I do say so myself she's quite attractive...what could possibly go wrong?

A few nights ago she came over carrying some take out and a few movies, I guess she had planned a night in without asking me. Normally I'd love a nice surprise like that unfortunately I'd already had a prior commitment to sit in with a band that needed a bass player for a night. I'd set the gig up almost 2 months prior to return a favor for helping me out of jam with one of my own shows. I know I told her about this job, we'd talked about it the previous evening over dinner and she knows I keep a very odd schedule with all my jobs.

I initially thought she forgot about my gig that night, so I gave a her a hug and thanked her for the nice thought but told her I really couldn't back out of this commitment, I needed the money and I think its wrong to go back on your word. She counters by asking me why I need to hang out with my friends all the time and not her. I reminded her that I actually do this for a living and it would be wrong to let down the rest of the band, but told her we could spend all weekend together if she wanted. She starts raising her voice and going on about needing to rearrange the priorities in my life and how I don't need to keep "going out" all the time. At this point I'm getting a little angry, told her she was being ridiculous and I needed to go to work, I grabbed my keys, told her she was welcome to hang out as long as she wanted and I'd be home later. She proceeds to overturn all the Chinese food, throws the movies in my trash and stands there glaring at me...at that point I told her to just get out.

I mean am I missing something here? During the time I've known her she seemed very down to earth, never minded the odd hours I keep and know all about what I do for a living. I keep thinking I overreacted and should have handled the situation better, maybe I'm just being my usual insensitive oblivious self and some glaring obvious thing is just going right over my head. It was a nice thought, maybe she just forgot about my gig, felt embarrassed about it and the whole thing just escalated? I have been a little busy lately and maybe haven't dedicated as much time as I should...but is that really her business this soon in the relationship? Truth be told ever since I moved about a year ago I've been a little lonely, I have lots of friends but I've missed having a girlfriend...and after coming so close I'd hate to just throw it all away on a misunderstanding...on the other hand it was a juvenile thing to do and I'm not so desperate I'm going to put up with someone throwing temper tantrums and telling me how to spend my time.

Any ideas guys? I've been thinking about calling her and talking it out...but also thinking about just walking away from it. Any advice here would be great.

Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.

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