Money-related marriage problems don't necessarily stem from not having much of it or carrying debt. Many of them are simply a result of conflicting ideas of money, conflicting philosophies, conflicting plans. Many couples will have one saver, and one spender. This means that without a plan, things can fall apart pretty quickly...both financially and in the marriage.
When a couple agrees on financial issues—which means actually discussing them (many don't)—and they work together as a team, that leaves less room for disagreements, misunderstandings, and even resentment.
I'll stress it again: if you have a plan and stick to it, you can make it work.
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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön
Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot
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