Ugh, I think if I asked my boyfriend "what are you thinking?" he would laugh at me and ask me when I turned into "every other woman on earth." 
If you're not communicating, a "what are you thinking" (which sounds like a really dumb open-ended question to me) isn't going to help. 
And, if one is uncomfortable with silences and the other knows silences are to be expected, you have a lot more to worry about than if the other person is thinking about a bacon cheeseburger or if they're obsessing over their undying passionate all-consuming love for you. (Which, it isn't healthy to have that kind of obsession nor is it healthy to NEED that kind of obsession.)
But I'm not normal.
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After you have exhausted what there is in business, politics, conviviality, and so on - have found that none of these finally satisfy, or permanently wear - what remains? Nature remains.
Walt Whitman, US poet (1819 - 1892)
Last edited by Sirensong12; 02-05-2010 at 08:43 AM..
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