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Kind of along the lines Cinn and MM suggested, I tend to be very introspective, and spend a lot of time day-dreaming or thinking about very odd topics. Often, I have views and thoughts that are just being formulated, and aren't yet "ripe" for discussion. My day-dreams are generally for my own consumption and not really intended to be shared (you wouldn't believe the number of times I've saved humanity from destruction!!!). Because of that, the question often does qualify as intrusive, albeit entirely innocently so. When that happens, I reply "nothing" instead of the more belligerent "that comes under the heading of my personal affairs" (or something to that effect).
I realise that often it's less a desire to have me share exactly what I'm thinking about at that moment (do you really want to know that I'm doing square roots of random numbers as I drive?), but that it's more an invitation to start a conversation. Knowing that, I often have a fall-back topic of conversation that I can offer as a plausible train of thought.
And yes, in my experience, it's asked by women over 90% of the time (other than in foreplay/post-coital situations). Men can spend so much more time in friendly silence without concern that it's rare to hear it from another guy.
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