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Originally Posted by The_Jazz
And highthief - now there's at least 3 of us who think that.
Mirth - none of us has anything against you, but there are times when you seem to need to be reminded that you're an adult and are responsible for your own actions. You also have a pretty skewed view of women and relationships based on your point-by-point disection of the two you've been a part of. Do you do that with your friends?
[sigh] Here's my last piece of advice: you seem to enjoy going to this church and enjoy what it has to offer. That's good. You've identified something that you like to do. If you can't go to the same church because you've dumped this girl (which seems silly but whatever), then find one that's similar - explain the situation to the minister and get his recommendations if you need to. Go do young adult bible study or join their softball team (who cares if you're any good - it's a church softball team, not the *insert team name here*). Get to know people. Make friends.
Then again, I think Manic_Skafe and I are going to syncronise watches for your next thread with some variation of this problem. Skafe, what do you think? 4 months?
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Heh, I don't do that with my friends, I guess because throughout my lifetime I grew up having friends. I've had 2 female friends in my entire lifetime, and one is my best friend's fiance, so I never really hang out with her one-on-one. And besides, she admits that she's just like "one of the guys", which she seems to be true, she's very non-girly. And the 2nd female friend I've ever had was this current girl.
With that said, that's why I feel I seem to be doing the point-by-point dissection, as you call it. Take this analogy, which would end up being true for most. You learn only English your whole life, and then you finally end up learning a new language in your teens (for school) or later on your own out of curiosity. When you first start learning the new language, you always compare and translate the words for example, "trabajo" = "work", "si" = "yes", "perro" = "dog". If someone is speaking to you in the new language, using the words you know, you translate each word to understand the sentence. Then, when you spend a lot of time with the new language, you stop "dissecting" every word in the sentence and just see it as a new language and not a Language-to-English translation process. It just flows naturally.
For me, women are kind of like that. I don't understand them yet. I don't understand the differences of our "languages". There have been a few times where I'd make a quick joke in front of a woman and they are like "ha...", yet my friends would be laughing like hell. I want to be natural with women, I want to see them as just people with the same things in common as me, but so far I haven't felt that way, and I'm trying to learn this 'new language' from the beginning.
Anyways, thanks for the church advice. They have the same church but on a different campus that is closer to me, so I may look into that. I actually have an "events" pamphlet from them, so I'll look at that after work and see if they have anything interesting.
Anyways, I'm saddened that many of you think that she's better off without me... Makes me feel like I'm not good enough for pretty much any woman that doesn't have some sort of mental retardation...