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What if the woman's bi? Do all friends immediately amount to nothing but potential sex? Or what if she has lesbian friends? Is that just potential sex, too?
I've known my two closest guy friends for nearly 20 years. Except for one crush-type situation back in 8th or 9th grade, there's never been anything sexual or romantic mentioned.
I just don't relate well to a lot of women. I have way more guy friends than girl friends, and the girls I am friends with have that same tomboy streak in them that I do (for what it's worth, I'm supertight with the few female friends I have.) I like video games and beer and sports and being a geek...I have no interest in celebrity gossip, designer purses, tanning, or Carrie Bradshaw. Obviously, not all women fall into that pattern, and not all men eschew it; I'm generalizing a bit.
Oddly enough, I had this conversation with my most recent ex quite a bit. He was one of those guys, though, that thought women were only good for fucking, and not much else.
For me, and I'd hope for most people, friendship has nothing to do with gender. If you find someone you can relate to, and care about, and have fun with, then it doesn't matter if they have dangly bits or not. And if there's one-sided sexual attraction, then fine-- but it doesn't automatically exist just because one person's a man, and one's a woman; it's not automatically excluded because both parties are women; and unless it becomes mutual attraction, nothing will ever happen.
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