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There's just no such thing as one guaranteed way to bring off a woman with your mouth. Women are too different from one another.

Guys are like phones from 1960 to 1980: they all look more or less the same-- some are a little bigger, some a little smaller, and they come in different colors, but it's the same unit overall, and the same three or four actions, repeated as necessary in roughly the same sequence, will get you connected up, no matter what.

But girls are like cell phones now: some are smart phones, some are bare-minimums phones, with every range of different options in between represented; some are pay-as-you-go, some are on the monthly plan, and some go according to confusing plans you've never heard of; none of them look precisely the same, and until you are actually using it for the first time, you have no real idea how the thing works. But they're all glossy and shiny and smooth and attractive, and in their own way, each is fun to play with. But most models aren't 100% intuitive, and you may need to read the manual, or ask someone else with the same model for advice.

Obviously, the best possible way to ensure your girl is pleased by your performance is to ask her what she likes. I don't know why more guys don't do this: in my experience, girls are pleased to be asked, and delighted that you want to know, and are invariably enthused with the results.

In any case, if you're determined to find your own way, at the least, it's never a bad idea to start out gentle. Find out what spots she likes best-- as mentioned previously, it might not always be the clit. Find out what levels of stimulation, pressure, and directness she likes. Some girls are all about "Suck my clit like it was a happiness-flavored hard candy," and others will kill you for sucking. Some girls are nuts for "Get your tongue up in there and lick the g-spot," and others will tell you never, ever to put your tongue all the way inside them. And some girls like an all-over tongue lashing like a Great Dane polishing his knob, while others want ceaseless, oh-so-light fluttering, like a vibrator set on "butterfly kisses."

But you have to be willing to be guided, to play along with what they want, to be a good student. Only then will they feel safe enough to both open up, relax, and come; and also to let you do some experimenting. Because in my experience, many women either have some fun sensitive places they haven't done much with-- lots have never had their taint licked, and it can come as a pleasant surprise-- or they may be initially averse to-- like the asshole, which can often come with unwanted associations to bad attempts at anal with less gentle and patient men. But if a girl feels safe and comfortable with you, she may be inclined to visit or revisit those out-of-the-way spots which can be lots of fun for you both. And then you also get to be the guy whom she tells her friends, "You know, I never even knew the taint was a thing, and then he just had me going wild!" or "I thought I just didn't like any kind of anal play, but then this guy came along, and wow, now I'm hooked!"

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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.

(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)