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Plan9 · 12-14-2009, 05:52 PM

Well, if my last one was any indicator: EEERRRRGGH... KABLOOEY!

Heh.

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Thoughts:

I think I could forgive just about anything given the right resources (time, location, etc). I can be rational about stuff like this, I guess.

Though the person would have to really flex their guts and make me believe in them again. Trust is a flighty creature when spooked.

The next time I get married, I'm going to make sure to be upfront about the "cheating" issue. If it's just about sex? I could understand that.

I might even lay it down like this:

"You wanna bang somebody else? OK. But you have to tell me first, use safer sex practices, and you're not doing it on my $4000 Swedish sleep surface."

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I think you develop a certain amount of emotional callus when you go through something like a divorce stemming from an affair.

I need a partner who is there, pulls their weight, and believes in the "you and me" thing. I want to outgrow the "I own your vaj" bit.

Get the feeling I shouldn't have to tell my partner that they shouldn't go sneaking around on me if they need something I can't provide.

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Then again... maybe this is a lot of wishful thinking coming from a guy contemplating a vasectomy and a life of travel and dating site hookups.

12-14-2009, 05:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Well, if my last one was any indicator: EEERRRRGGH... KABLOOEY! Heh. ... Thoughts: I think I could forgive just about anything given the right resources (time, location, etc). I can be rational about stuff like this, I guess. Though the person would have to really flex their guts and make me believe in them again. Trust is a flighty creature when spooked. The next time I get married, I'm going to make sure to be upfront about the "cheating" issue. If it's just about sex? I could understand that. I might even lay it down like this: "You wanna bang somebody else? OK. But you have to tell me first, use safer sex practices, and you're not doing it on my $4000 Swedish sleep surface." ... I think you develop a certain amount of emotional callus when you go through something like a divorce stemming from an affair. I need a partner who is there, pulls their weight, and believes in the "you and me" thing. I want to outgrow the "I own your vaj" bit. Get the feeling I shouldn't have to tell my partner that they shouldn't go sneaking around on me if they need something I can't provide. ... Then again... maybe this is a lot of wishful thinking coming from a guy contemplating a vasectomy and a life of travel and dating site hookups. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake." Last edited by Plan9; 12-14-2009 at 06:04 PM..