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Originally Posted by essendoubleop
Okay here's another twist that has transpired since I recently re-joined Facebook.
I sent a friend request to one of my closest friends immediately after I signed up. He took an awfully long time in accepting my request, even though I knew had been on it several times during the weeks leading up to when he finally accepted. When I looked at the pictures he had in his profile, I was shocked, mortified, and embarrassed. There were at least a dozen pictures of me at various parties and events over the past few years that I certainly would not disseminated through the public. I am a private person, which was a big concern for me about whether or not I would actually re-boot my Facebook profile, so seeing these pictures of me that are available for everyone to see was horrifying. However, if it wasn't for me restarting my Facebook, I would never have even known these photos existed of me on the internet for acquaintances and friends of friends to see.
I really am in a state of shock. Remember Erin Andrews, the sideline reporter who was videotaped naked and exposed online? This is how it feels to me (though a fraction, I'm sure). I'm not exactly helpless, I can ask him to take them down or contact Facebook, etc. But the pictures have already been out there for everyone to see and digest by now and the damage has already been done. It feels especially violating when it is a close friend who has taken advantage of the privacy you cherish. I just saw them this morning and haven't discussed it with him yet, but it will definitely be a bone of contention between us. I haven't decided if I should bring it up to him casually and gently, or if I should sit him down and have a serious talk about it. Any ideas? Payback and revenge? Get the lawyers? Good old right cross to knock some sense into him?
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Photos taken in public are public domain.
I have years worth of public pictures I took including some inappropriate ones where these strippers decided it would be a HARDYFUCKINGHAR good time to get naked down to the cherries and spread those legs wide.
Mind you, this was a public all ages event at a raceway park where we were putting on a music oriented stage show, the radio station that was also doing a show separate from ours has some weird business relationship with the strip clubs out here and questionable promotion tactics by using these girls to promote their shows.
I was taking pictures of the event, I had probably 1000 or so of that night including the girls up on stage being complete jackasses and getting naked in front of families. Granted, I wouldn't mind had they known what they were getting in to, but yeah I don't think you'd want your 10 year old getting a face full of snatch in all it's shaved tattoo'd glory.
About a week later I got a call from this girl. How she got my number? not too sure *shrug*
Now, i'm not an asshole. The girl called me up, asked me if I was who she was looking for, I confirmed that I took the pictures and that they were on the site where my years of photos were hosted and promoted.
Instead of asking me to take them down, she launched in to a string of profanities and namecalling and threats. I just hung up, eff that noise.
2nd time she called she just demanded I take them down. I said "they were taken in public, there were witnesses that you were doing this in front of men, women, and children of all ages, and just because you're in the pictures you think you have a right to dictate what happens to them? to call me up and threaten me? Maybe you should think about it next time when you're at a flyered event where it's clearly stated on the flyer that there were going to be pictures of the event online?
all in all, it was a pretty righteous owning. The pictures never came down, sold the site and all the pictures off to an interested party and put that drama behind me.
my advice, dont go out in public if you can't handle the picture being public domain.
However, if the picture was taken in your home. You're fine to request killing the pictures, but don't demand or expect anything unless you're willing to flex the arm of the law on your behalf (read: be ready to get ripped off for money)