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I know where you're coming from, Woods. I have always been a serial monogamist, and from college until I met my wife, I would be in long-term relationships, break up, and it would take several years in between for me to find the next right woman. During that in-between time, I very rarely, if ever, hooked up with anyone, or even fooled around with anyone. Usually after a break-up, it would take me a month or two to get back any kind of sex drive, and from then until I met the next right woman, 99% of the time I was just wanking.
For me, at least, it stemmed out of really knowing what I wanted, and not perceiving sex with women with whom I didn't want a long-term relationship as being worth my investiture of time and energy.
If my guess is right, when your heart has healed a little, your drive-- at least to pleasure yourself, if nothing more-- will come back a bit. But the greater Drive to Hook Up may have waned, and it may have done so for good reasons. That part shouldn't worry you. It's OK.
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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