Shauk

inch vs mile dude....

I mean you can argue the logical reasons for 1v1 pairings if you want, that's what I get out of your post. I don't debate that it's logical, it is, it has merits, however, the social stigma on multiple partners borderlines on retardation at times. Yes there are valid points AGAINST multiple partners, but just saying, a serial monogamist with 10 1v1 relationships a year is probably just as respectable as a guy who gets himself in to 5 1v2's a year. A lot of the hostilities and anguish that people suffer from relationships seems like it could just be avoided if they just swallow the bitter pill of saying "it was never really 'mine' to lose anyway, just another experience that makes up my journey"

Strange to say, i've never had a threesome, i've been in situations with 4 people, and with 5 people (both counting myself) so thats to say, more than three. I didn't stray in to sampling the platter of the other participants because, like you said, the risks involved didn't appeal to me.

That said, engaging in either MMF or MFF would require me to trust the third party a lot, it wouldn't have anything to do with jealousy or "oh shit it's another dude" for me to reject the idea outright.

To break it down to the science.
Yeah we're "territorial" for a reason, it doesn't mean it's a good reason, it's just all that chemical voodoo. I'm sure we all love to think we're in control of our perceptions of reality, but when your brain is pumping phenylethylalamine causing a chain reaction of serotonin, dopamine and all that other feel goodness in to your system, you're about as rational as a primitive. We're addicted to that chemical reaction, we resort to our withdrawals and crying and bullshit and possible violent outburst during our detox. (oh that bitch left me for the captain of the swim team! waah etc)


Threesomes for sex are different than Threesomes for love, for the former, it just takes a couple free spirited (and hopefully responsible) people, for the latter, move to Utah.