Giant Threadjack:
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Originally Posted by Shauk
I've just come to realize that anyone who has a problem with threesomes generally just have a selfish view on relationships.
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Or, dunno, maybe they desire a mathematically-balanced situation with less moving (read: superfluous) parts so they can enjoy their time. When did practicality become a real buzzkill? Is choosing to have one child and not two selfish? What about jobs? They're all valid examples of not wanting to complicate your life with extraneous bullshit and drama for the sake of busting a nut (physically or otherwise), the single most selfish activity that one can engage in these days given our silver spoon TeeVee casualty lives.
To suggest that someone that doesn't want a threesome (or any sexual whathow) is selfish is incredibly amusing given the painfully cliche male fantasy of getting sandwiched between two pairs of sweaty tits, no? Honestly, I don't see how it is selfish to get into a relationship and be all,
"Hey, is it cool if we're exclusive?" Between dick-rotting STDs, child support, lawsuits, crazy stalkers... it's a pretty legit practice. Threesomes are fun in pornos, cumbersome in real life... otherwise they'd be way more common and my ex wouldn't have objected so strongly to renting a turbo-mouthed Korean woman to give us both a happy ending for my last birthday.
I forget where he said it, but I think it was
Manic Skafe addressed the "fantasy works best as fantasy" thing once... maybe in 2007. Just because we can do something, doesn't mean we need to or should... like snorting coke off J.Lo's ass or swimming through fist-sized coins like Scrooge McDuck or opening a stubborn door with an AT4... it's okay to have fantasies but sometimes you just can't live 'em out. Sometimes its better that we can't live them out. It keeps us from being whiny bitches. What did the Rolling Stones say about not getting what you want?
And maybe we don't "own" our partner, but it's an agreement that requires discussion and has a definite floor. All this free love my-own-island swinger hoopla is a tiny percentage out there. Somebody please dig up statistics that show otherwise and make me look like a dumbass. Please.
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Originally Posted by Shauk
Me? i'm just thankful for each encounter, like a one time transaction of mutual approval. if it happens again, great. if not? well, i'll live.
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If everybody is "I'm for the other person" 100% then nobody gets what they really want. 50/50 is the way to go, it would seem. Life is full of compromises. Cue Rolling Stones. Hell, a significant portion of the suffering selfish male population is still trying to figure out a bargaining chip that will allow them into their girlfriend's alternate love canal, or as my good buddy
Fugly delicately puts it, the pooper.
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Originally Posted by Shauk
I think it makes ME a better person if I help indulge a person in whatever fantasy they have, we only live once, and it makes me a better partner for relationships to be the open minded one. I know I'd be appreciative if I had a woman go out of her way to accommodate my fantasies. People tend to focus on the destination and not the journey when they're having their relationships n such ;p Not for me.
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Easy to say, hard to practice. How many threesomes have you had,
Shauk? As left field as
StrangeFamous is, the bit about threesomes fucking up relationships has been proven in many cases. Few are above jealously and envy. Some call it selfish, some call it human nature. We're territorial for a reason.
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My point from this garbage?
Being selfish, like everything else, is good in moderation.
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I understand your points but I respectfully dissent. Perhaps I'm just another dinosaur.