I now live with my mother and sister (though I spend a significant amount of time at my SO's house to stay sane), so we're getting closer.
My mother and I are pretty close, but she still really hurts me sometimes. She's a very immature communicator, and knows exactly how to get under your skin. And she does it. Regularly. It stings.
My sister put our family through hell for a handful of years with heroin addiction and stealing from us. I have a VERY hard time trusting her, and so I have a very hard time communicating with her sometimes. I once offered for her to come live with me while I was in college to kick the addiction.. and the same day, she stole two of my credit cards. She's hurt me many times, so while I try to help.. I don't feel comfortable putting myself on the line for her very much anymore. I always get burned.
My father was the type to be very silent about his emotions unless he was angry. He was an alcoholic, and also put us through hell for a few years. He told me he loved me for the first time last year (in an email), and he also told me once on the phone. He was the coolest person in the world when I was a kid, but when I hit puberty he didn't care to participate in my hobbies anymore. I never really knew him that well, and since he passed in August I never will.
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"Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility, like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron before it can give forth its spark."
— Henri-Frédéric Amiel
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