I don't have a link to share, but I can tell you that I simply showed my wife my example. When she did let something nasty out of her mouth in the bedroom, I just made sure I let her know that it was a turn-on to me.
When we first met, she was very reserved about dirty talk but now she says things like "Fuck me harder," or even "Fill me with your cum." She shocks me sometimes... in a good way.
We did have a conversation on the first night we slept together where I told her some important things: (1) Good sex is messy, loud, fun and sometimes embarrassing, and (2) Outside the bedroom, it's okay to call it a penis or vagina, but in bed it's a cock or pussy, and (3) It's not only OK, but recommended that we can use the "F" word to describe what we're doing... it doesn't always have to be romantic.
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