View Single Post
Old 11-08-2009, 06:48 AM   #9 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru
warrior bodhisattva
 
Baraka_Guru's Avatar
 
Super Moderator
Location: East-central Canada
Quote:
Originally Posted by Willravel View Post
If I may interject for a second, have you ever spent even a moment considering whether or not you may be bisexual? I don't think that's abnormal for a heterosexual and doesn't necessarily make you bisexual or even bi-curoious. I asked myself that question when I was maybe 16 or 17 because I had my first friend that happened to by gay. After I honestly considered it, I reaffirmed my heterosexuality and moved on. I've never been sexually attracted to a man and I'm consistently sexually attracted to women. If, however, upon consideration I realized that I might be attracted to men, I would have probably been happier in the long run.

Maybe Strange, and everyone else for that matter, should in the most honest way possible ask that difficult question of him or herself. Just in case. The last thing you want to do is live a lie. Hopefully.
I think everyone has considered their sexuality, whether consciously or subconsciously. I don't think we simply "default" to purely heterosexual or purely homosexual and be done with it, only to have the picture muddled as we experience life.

I think it's difficult, however, to end up living against your sexual orientation based on cultural conditioning. Gay parents don't make gay children. You can't catch gay, and all that. So how could one become straight if they were already gay? Homosexuality occurs in children. It's not simply something that pops up in puberty and beyond.

There are, of course, cases where people hide their sexuality. Closeted gays, I imagine, could find themselves in a position where they are fooling not only others, but themselves.

The way Strange framed the issue seemed to imply that gays can simply consider switching teams based on peer pressure or other cultural pressures. But it's not like they chose to be gay.
__________________
Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön

Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot

Last edited by Baraka_Guru; 11-08-2009 at 06:51 AM..
Baraka_Guru is offline  
 

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360