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Old 11-07-2009, 08:24 PM   #7 (permalink)
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It's been hinted at already, but I agree that sexuality for some is broader than it is for others. Some identify with being straight, but have interests in bisexuality, while others identify as gay but may have bisexual tendencies as well. Others simply consider themselves bisexual but may prefer one sex over the other when it comes to long-term relationships.

As for ethics, you only break human decency when you attempt to pressure someone into being something they aren't. You can fall into this trap by making assumptions and by being covert about your own intentions. Honesty is the best policy in things such as this.
I'd never intentionally pressure someone to be what they're not (except for extreme cases, like a violent racist about to hurt a black guy), but this is an area where there may be unknown unknowns. I don't want to make assumptions on the one hand, but on the other hand I've known folks that did change teams or that went from heterosexual/homosexual to bisexual.

For the time being, I'm okay simply dismissing this as mixed signals and getting back to the status quo. I'm more than willing to admit there are aspects of other people's sexuality that I may never understand, and it's not my place to make assumptions of any kind.
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Are you open to the idea of being gay?
If I may interject for a second, have you ever spent even a moment considering whether or not you may be bisexual? I don't think that's abnormal for a heterosexual and doesn't necessarily make you bisexual or even bi-curoious. I asked myself that question when I was maybe 16 or 17 because I had my first friend that happened to by gay. After I honestly considered it, I reaffirmed my heterosexuality and moved on. I've never been sexually attracted to a man and I'm consistently sexually attracted to women. If, however, upon consideration I realized that I might be attracted to men, I would have probably been happier in the long run.

Maybe Strange, and everyone else for that matter, should in the most honest way possible ask that difficult question of him or herself. Just in case. The last thing you want to do is live a lie. Hopefully.
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