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robot_parade · 11-04-2009, 09:24 PM

I guess I don't really have a specific question or insightful observation here. There's an attractive girl at work, equipped with a rather impressive set of boobs. She has a tendency to wear outfits that display a fair amount of cleavage - not complete exposure all the time or anything, but enough so that during a normal interaction there's going to be plenty of opportunity for some eye candy. I wonder about a few things.

How much looking is acceptable or appropriate? There's obviously a line to be crossed here - leering, staring, or sexual comments are clearly over the line...but how much is too much? Should people try to completely avoid looking at the area? Is occasional appreciation socially 'ok'? From my perspective as a hetero guy with a boob fetish, only a great force of would allow me to never look at the cleavage. I could probably manage it though, if I thought it was important enough.

What about from the lady's perspective? I mean, obviously she has to know what she's showing off - pretty much everything she wears has these properties, and there are plenty of women with equally impressive breasts who don't show any cleavage at work. Is she choosing the outfits simply because they look nice, she's comfortable with her body, and doesn't mind a little cleavage showing? Her clothes do look nice - she dresses professionally (unless you consider showing cleavage unprofessional) in a decidedly feminine way. The clothes she wears don't strike me as overly sexual or revealing aside from the cleavage showing. Her attitude is 100% professional, but relaxed. She doesn't flirt seriously with me or with anyone else that I've noticed, so I don't think she's trying to sexualize the office environment, or use her sexuality in an inappropriate way.

I would think that if she didn't want people to notice and appreciate, she would make different clothing choices. But at the same time, I don't think she's looking for her male coworkers to hit on her, or to use her body to get any kind of advantages or favors. My best guess is that she thinks that boobs are neat, hers are spectacular, and she's happy to show them off a little bit, and doesn't mind people appreciating the cleavage; but she's a professional, and expects other people to act professionally.

She is, incidentally, pretty good at her job, and has a boyfriend (he looks like he'd fit right in at 'hot chicks with douchebags', but that's another matter entirely).

What do you think? Cleavage appreciation good? At work? Should she cover the cleavage up at work?

In a similar vein, there's another girl I interact with occasionally at work that has 'large' boobs, who wears those stretchy tight-fitting tops every single day. No cleavage, but definite eye-candy. Again, can't be an accident, and afaict the situation is the same. There are also plenty of other attractive women at my office, of course, and plenty of legs on display, etc. I'm a breast man, so...

To be clear, by 'appreciation', I mean enjoying, with occasional glances lasting less than a second each.

Oh, and another question - do you think she notices occasional glances of appreciation? Do you think she minds them?

11-04-2009, 09:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
robot_parade Junkie Location: San Antonio, TX	Cleavage at work I guess I don't really have a specific question or insightful observation here. There's an attractive girl at work, equipped with a rather impressive set of boobs. She has a tendency to wear outfits that display a fair amount of cleavage - not complete exposure all the time or anything, but enough so that during a normal interaction there's going to be plenty of opportunity for some eye candy. I wonder about a few things. How much looking is acceptable or appropriate? There's obviously a line to be crossed here - leering, staring, or sexual comments are clearly over the line...but how much is too much? Should people try to completely avoid looking at the area? Is occasional appreciation socially 'ok'? From my perspective as a hetero guy with a boob fetish, only a great force of would allow me to never look at the cleavage. I could probably manage it though, if I thought it was important enough. What about from the lady's perspective? I mean, obviously she has to know what she's showing off - pretty much everything she wears has these properties, and there are plenty of women with equally impressive breasts who don't show any cleavage at work. Is she choosing the outfits simply because they look nice, she's comfortable with her body, and doesn't mind a little cleavage showing? Her clothes do look nice - she dresses professionally (unless you consider showing cleavage unprofessional) in a decidedly feminine way. The clothes she wears don't strike me as overly sexual or revealing aside from the cleavage showing. Her attitude is 100% professional, but relaxed. She doesn't flirt seriously with me or with anyone else that I've noticed, so I don't think she's trying to sexualize the office environment, or use her sexuality in an inappropriate way. I would think that if she didn't want people to notice and appreciate, she would make different clothing choices. But at the same time, I don't think she's looking for her male coworkers to hit on her, or to use her body to get any kind of advantages or favors. My best guess is that she thinks that boobs are neat, hers are spectacular, and she's happy to show them off a little bit, and doesn't mind people appreciating the cleavage; but she's a professional, and expects other people to act professionally. She is, incidentally, pretty good at her job, and has a boyfriend (he looks like he'd fit right in at 'hot chicks with douchebags', but that's another matter entirely). What do you think? Cleavage appreciation good? At work? Should she cover the cleavage up at work? In a similar vein, there's another girl I interact with occasionally at work that has 'large' boobs, who wears those stretchy tight-fitting tops every single day. No cleavage, but definite eye-candy. Again, can't be an accident, and afaict the situation is the same. There are also plenty of other attractive women at my office, of course, and plenty of legs on display, etc. I'm a breast man, so... To be clear, by 'appreciation', I mean enjoying, with occasional glances lasting less than a second each. Oh, and another question - do you think she notices occasional glances of appreciation? Do you think she minds them? Last edited by robot_parade; 11-04-2009 at 09:32 PM..