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Ayashe · 10-26-2009, 05:21 PM

I want to put this out here for you donmaytee, I have been somewhat in your position. (Too long to get into any serious detail)

There were a few of critical differences however.

1) His text conversations with the other person actually were deeper than just some random 900-number type deal
2) He truly had no desire to let her go
3) The female my ex became involved with was totally psycho

Regardless of the situation I can still come out of it and say that were I in your shoes I would not disclose this. I can tell you that I felt irreparably hurt and it ruined the relationship. You have stated this was essentially meaningless conversation which changes this completely. You know that it would hurt her. If you tell her, I can be nearly certain that she will never have the same level of trust as she had before. If you felt these text-sessions were something you couldn't afford in your life to end my response would be to tell her and expect an end to your relationship. With all of this taken into account I had some difficulty with admitting that ending and not disclosing the situation was the best choice. Weighing in how I felt when this happened to me, I honestly do feel it is the best option. You of course have to make the decision that feels best for you.

10-26-2009, 05:21 PM	#30 (permalink)
Ayashe Psycho	I want to put this out here for you donmaytee, I have been somewhat in your position. (Too long to get into any serious detail) There were a few of critical differences however. 1) His text conversations with the other person actually were deeper than just some random 900-number type deal 2) He truly had no desire to let her go 3) The female my ex became involved with was totally psycho Regardless of the situation I can still come out of it and say that were I in your shoes I would not disclose this. I can tell you that I felt irreparably hurt and it ruined the relationship. You have stated this was essentially meaningless conversation which changes this completely. You know that it would hurt her. If you tell her, I can be nearly certain that she will never have the same level of trust as she had before. If you felt these text-sessions were something you couldn't afford in your life to end my response would be to tell her and expect an end to your relationship. With all of this taken into account I had some difficulty with admitting that ending and not disclosing the situation was the best choice. Weighing in how I felt when this happened to me, I honestly do feel it is the best option. You of course have to make the decision that feels best for you. __________________ I am only a little spoon in a huge world of soup.