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Originally Posted by donmaytee
However i know it is only an opinion, and i did ask for advise but i can't quite understand the common sense in Manic_Skafe's post
I haven't anywhere said i don't want this child, and i don't want to be with the mother for the rest of my life, the 2 people i have text, on not quite so common occurrence, i don't really see in that way what so ever, to me, it's just like texting a person on a porn line, just for a quick laugh, (Haven't ever done this) id trust myself in a room with these 2 people even if i was drunk for that matter.
It's not a fantasy however, because if we were sexually active, i probably wouldn't be talking to these people anymore,
But on your post, id understand that if i had turned around and said, i don't want to be with her anyway. I want to be having sex with other people, because i DON'T.
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I don't think my post had anything to do with common sense but I know for certain that I didn't write anything about you wanting out of your current relationship. My point is that what you're doing clearly violates the terms of your relationship and considering your age, you'd be wise to look before you leap.
I'm sure that your love for the mother and desire for the child are very real but that doesn't negate the fact that, whether for a laugh or not, some of your actions don't coincide with your desires.
I agree with everyone that there's no point in telling her about this and what you feel is totally natural but you probably already knew all that before creating this thread. This problem is an easy enough fix - failing to look at the root causes it what can easily land you here again.
Considering your age, the texts you've sent and the uncomfortable position you've been put in by her decision to stop the sex entirely, I suggest you be careful.
That's all. For whatever it's worth.