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Cynthetiq · 10-25-2009, 07:46 AM

curious since you're doing the same thing, just under a pseudonym.

In relation to your wife, this wouldn't be limited to Facebook. If there was no such thing as social media, she probably may be inclined to do the same behavior which is known as gossiping.

This now boils down to communication. You need to let her know that she should not be gossiping about you. You need to setup some sort of dialogue to let her know what is and isn't acceptable to post about.

Example:
The 3 of you were engaged in an activity together. Is that fair for her to let be known?
She is engaged in an activity. Is that fair for her to be let known?
Your child is engaged in an activity. Is that fair for her to let be known?
You are engaged in an activity. Is that fair for her to be let known?

My wife knows that I speak about her from time to time here on TFP. She is comfortable with me mentioning very select things, and she does find it strange when she meets some of these folk here that they know so much about her, meaning more than zero. But I stop at very generic things in public, and some private things in blogs, and even more private things in private blogs which are for a select few.

Skogafoss had no interested in Facebook, until she saw me reconnecting with some old long lost friends. She was having her own issues trying to find someone, and I suggested she try Facebook, she gave in and has enjoyed the site and reconnecting with these old friends both virtually and in person.

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Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	curious since you're doing the same thing, just under a pseudonym. In relation to your wife, this wouldn't be limited to Facebook. If there was no such thing as social media, she probably may be inclined to do the same behavior which is known as gossiping. This now boils down to communication. You need to let her know that she should not be gossiping about you. You need to setup some sort of dialogue to let her know what is and isn't acceptable to post about. Example: The 3 of you were engaged in an activity together. Is that fair for her to let be known? She is engaged in an activity. Is that fair for her to be let known? Your child is engaged in an activity. Is that fair for her to let be known? You are engaged in an activity. Is that fair for her to be let known? My wife knows that I speak about her from time to time here on TFP. She is comfortable with me mentioning very select things, and she does find it strange when she meets some of these folk here that they know so much about her, meaning more than zero. But I stop at very generic things in public, and some private things in blogs, and even more private things in private blogs which are for a select few. Skogafoss had no interested in Facebook, until she saw me reconnecting with some old long lost friends. She was having her own issues trying to find someone, and I suggested she try Facebook, she gave in and has enjoyed the site and reconnecting with these old friends both virtually and in person. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!