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Strange Famous · 10-05-2009, 10:29 AM

I suppose I can sort of sympathise with the guy's perspective.

Although ideally I like to have relations 2 or 3 times a day, once for breakfast, once after tea and once at bedtime - Im not really into kinky thing like anal sex or dressing as a fireman, or being spanked etc. I probably would go along with some things (or do my best) if my girl was really into it, but probably half heartedly.

I think if you have a radically different sex drive to the person your with - it can be a big problem. Both of you might try to change themselves for the others sake, but you cant really change your sexual feelings in my opinion and it can lead to resentment. I dont mean to be negative - and other things in a relationship can be very worthwhile, but the physical side of things is a big thing to sacrifice.

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- I should make myself clearer, that I wasnt suggesting those kind of kinky things are the sort of thing youre into. But I can imagine someone like myself with a medium and plain sex drive, how I would feel if I had a partner who was very kinky and for example wanted to screw in car parks while people filmed it on their cell phones I would feel intimidated, unmanly that I wasnt up to such things, somewhat bemused...

Like the other guy I said, I guess you have to come to an understanding and hope its ok for both of you, or live with this issue. It isnt a positive thing to say I guess.

10-05-2009, 10:29 AM	#17 (permalink)
Strange Famous follower of the child's crusade?	I suppose I can sort of sympathise with the guy's perspective. Although ideally I like to have relations 2 or 3 times a day, once for breakfast, once after tea and once at bedtime - Im not really into kinky thing like anal sex or dressing as a fireman, or being spanked etc. I probably would go along with some things (or do my best) if my girl was really into it, but probably half heartedly. I think if you have a radically different sex drive to the person your with - it can be a big problem. Both of you might try to change themselves for the others sake, but you cant really change your sexual feelings in my opinion and it can lead to resentment. I dont mean to be negative - and other things in a relationship can be very worthwhile, but the physical side of things is a big thing to sacrifice. edit - I should make myself clearer, that I wasnt suggesting those kind of kinky things are the sort of thing youre into. But I can imagine someone like myself with a medium and plain sex drive, how I would feel if I had a partner who was very kinky and for example wanted to screw in car parks while people filmed it on their cell phones I would feel intimidated, unmanly that I wasnt up to such things, somewhat bemused... Like the other guy I said, I guess you have to come to an understanding and hope its ok for both of you, or live with this issue. It isnt a positive thing to say I guess. __________________ "Do not tell lies, and do not do what you hate, for all things are plain in the sight of Heaven. For nothing hidden will not become manifest, and nothing covered will remain without being uncovered." The Gospel of Thomas Last edited by Strange Famous; 10-05-2009 at 10:34 AM..