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My "average" is 2 a year. This includes a few periods of one night stands and/or casual relationships. It also includes a few years of being totally chaste (i.e. my first two years of college).
I don't subscribe to the newsletter that says having one night stands or short relationships are "poor lifestyle choices." If I discover some major incompatibility or "dealbreaker" with someone I'm seeing just a couple months into a relationship.. it's over. Even if we've been having sex since two weeks in.
Just because you've had sex with someone does not mean you have sold your soul to them, nor does it mean you are obligated to pursue a long-term relationship with them. Sometimes sex is just that: sex. Casual, fun, and if not with someone you're already serious about.. it better involve a condom.
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"Without passion man is a mere latent force and possibility, like the flint which awaits the shock of the iron before it can give forth its spark."
— Henri-Frédéric Amiel
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