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I for one have never been very attracted to older men than myself, only men in the same age group. Physically, I find younger men attractive. I couldn't tell you why this is, but men who are much older than me (say 10 year difference) have so far not attracted me.
I think there are a few factors here. For one, I don't like men to be too rugged, and prefer men who are slightly more boyish in appearance. Secondly, I am 29 but get told quite frequently I look younger. So there is a tendency also to attract slightly younger men than myself. These are all physical justifications.
Mentally, it's really not about age at all. I like someone who is intelligent and can challenge me. Someone who can keep up with my crazy thought process. But then I also like someone who has a young spirit, likes to have fun, try different things. So far I find that older men are more mellow that way but I am still feeling about 22 so it doesn't mesh.
The largest age difference I have experienced either way is 5 years, which is not much really.
Really I don't think age HAS to matter in any relationship. It depends entirely on the two people involved. So be it cougars or anything else, I think as long as people can be happy together, it's nobody's business.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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