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Like tip said, it's the intimacy thing. The fact that he (or she, as the case may be) loved someone else, who wasn't you, and all the little things that go along with that. Those whispered words of affection? Yep, she heard them first. And so on.
It's okay, though. She may have been there first, but she isn't there now. And that's the important thing.
I tend to get into the "she was better than me" rut. She looked better, she was funnier, she wasn't as shy, she got along better with his mom... but you have to remind yourself (or, I have to remind myself) that there's a reason she's his ex.
Also, this whole "he picked you" thing... 1) didn't you choose him, as well? Mutal choosing. Yep. And, 2) I think people really underestimate the "they made me laugh" angle. A shared sense of humor will get you through a lot of rough times. Plus, it's more fun during all the other times.
Oh, and one more thing. No snooping! Bad, bad, bad.
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"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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