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Personally, I would consider it cheating and would not tolerate it. A good thing to consider is how you learned of it. Was he secretive about it? Would he be willing to allow you to see the chats? Would he(assuming you were interested) be willing to involve you in these chats? Did they seem personally involved rather than just sexually? Most importantly how did it make you feel? One last clue here would be to ask him if the other parties are aware that he is involved in a relationship. I am willing to put money down on the fact that they are not aware. If it makes you feel badly tell him so and let him know that you feel that it conflicts with your idea of a monogamous relationship. Ask him if he would be willing to stop, or flatly tell him he needs to. See how he responds and take it from there. This is your relationship too!
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