Originally Posted by crystalan

I started dating this guy about 5 1/2 months ago. I know, not long. But the heat, passion and feelings were overwhelming, and the more I date him, the more obsessed I am with him. I do love him and have strong feelings towards him, but lately, since he's gone back to school, I've felt him withdraw from the relationship. I don't feel quite satisfied in how much attention and time I do get with him.

Now here's another aspect too; I'm 30, he's only 23. We're both going back to school, have a class together, and both of us are interested in purchasing a condo/house, although I'm the one with the finances to be able to do this sooner than he can. And we both have talked about marriage and kids and agree a lot on when it comes to the future.

However, for some reason, this relationship provokes old feelings of jealousy, and the more time goes on, the worse this gets. I've been awake at night thinking of this, my body is taxed by the extra stress of the constant worries, I don't eat that much because I'm just not that hungry from the stress and anxiety that I feel within the relationship. Is this something I can overcome while in the relationship? Do we have a chance, and do I have a chance, of making it work out for the long run? I know some therapy and growth need to happen on my part in order to get through this, but can I change while in the relationship? How do you know when to end it v.when to push through?

Please help! Have any of you experienced something even close to this?